I Caught a Light: Francis Doom speaks on Creating Music, Being Proud to be Korean, and How to be Vulnerable When Making Art
Indie musician Francis Doom joins The Holly Hughes Podcast for a wide-ranging conversation about music and the identity behind the beats. Born in the US, but to Korean parents, Francis Doom grew up quietly rejecting his Korean heritage in favor of American assimilation. It wasn’t until he was older and grew more comfortable with his roots that he was able to truly embrace his craft.
Francis Doom and Holly Hughes have a conversation about the creation of music, embracing identity, and the simple joys of creating.
Making music involves vulnerability, a sense of self, and an ability to be comfortable with one’s own identity. When the foundation feels fabricated, the music is sure to reflect that. Therefore, making music requires a heavy dose of introspection.
Indie musician Francis Doom joins The Holly Hughes Podcast for a wide-ranging conversation about music and the identity behind the beats. Born in the US, but to Korean parents, Francis Doom grew up quietly rejecting his Korean heritage in favor of American assimilation. It wasn’t until he was older and grew more comfortable with his roots that he was able to truly embrace his craft.
Francis Doom and Holly Hughes have a conversation about the creation of music, embracing identity, and the simple joys of creating.
Follow Francis Doom’s music online at francisdoommusic.com.
Get your copy of Holly’s book, Real Not Perfect: How to Become Your Happy, Authentic Self.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Francis Doom and the Podcast
00:50 The Journey of a Musician
01:34 Instruments and Early Influences
04:33 The Creative Process of Songwriting
07:22 The Role of Melody and Lyrics
09:48 Concert Experiences and Music Community
12:24 Cultural Influences on Music
14:34 The Dichotomy of Sound in Music
19:46 Embracing Cultural Identity
23:15 The Impact of Labels and Acceptance
24:23 Generational Perspectives on Heritage
26:47 Artistic Vulnerability vs. Public Persona
29:11 Navigating Sexuality in Music
32:51 The Role of Social Media in Music Promotion
34:42 The Emotional Connection to Pets
38:33 Exploring Love in Long-Term Relationships
41:34 Advice on Parenthood and Relationships
43:31 The Minimalist Musician's Journey
48:26 Navigating the Challenges of Touring
53:55 Defining Success in the Music Industry
58:47 The Personal Touch in Music and Relationships
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Welcome to the Holly Hughes
podcast.
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I am very happy to be speaking
with the Francis Doom.
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He's got the deep ethereal voice
that women go crazy for and he
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is an indie alternative rock
singer-songwriter.
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They're just like the all around
thing.
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Oh, and we'll also be touching
upon the book talk quotes for
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sure while we talk.
So welcome, Francis.
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Thanks for coming today.
Thanks for having me.
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See, it's the voice now.
So now, now I'm going to ask you
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to be like, hey, can you just
say welcome to the Holly Hughes
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podcast?
All right, welcome to I can't
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do.
That look here I'm.
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Too unserious.
So when did you know you were a
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musician?
Honestly, from an early age, I,
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I knew that I, I wanted to do
music and, you know, throughout
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my life my motivations might
have changed, you know, as a
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little.
Kids.
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I just thought it was just so
cool, like wow, like and and
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some of my earlier influences
you you might it's kind of
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funny.
Like the first group that I
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loved was like boys to men.
I just thought they were the
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coolest and they are the.
Coolest they are Yeah.
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For.
Sure.
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And.
I'm like, I have their
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soundtrack in my head now.
Yeah, You don't want to hear me
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sing.
That's the last thing anyone
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wants to hear because this is a
direct quote from my mother, who
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loves me so much.
And she really does.
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It's like, thank God You Can
Dance, Holly, because you sure
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Can't Sing.
But those are like the best
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people to do karaoke with
because it's just more fun when
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you.
Would like me and Nora Bong in
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Korea but I don't.
I'm not brave enough to do it
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here.
It's the worst one of these
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days.
But so, yeah, I mean, the the,
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the the desire to be cool.
I feel like that sort of drives
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a lot of young kids because like
no one's like 8 and like they're
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like, I want to master the
Craftsman, you know, like of
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like, like the craft of music,
you know, it's like now I want
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to be cool.
So, you know, early age was that
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and that got that drove me
through like, you know, teen
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years, like wanting to just
well.
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Be real, be like, be honest
there.
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I just wanted, I wanted that one
and I wanted that one and I want
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to be on stage and like look
over.
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I want to talk about that.
That whole presence of being on
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stage.
That's a huge part of being a
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musician.
But I also like want to know how
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many instruments you play and
which one did you start with
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then?
Also, like every good Asian boy,
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I started with piano kicking
screaming.
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Ironically, I hated it.
My parents made me and so they
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forced me to go take lessons and
when they finally let me quit, I
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feel like a couple years later I
like went back to the piano and
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I'm like, oh, I like this and so
and that.
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Honestly, piano is if anyone is
thinking about starting their
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kids on an instrument, I
recommend piano.
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It's just, you know, every note
is literally in order from left
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to right.
You can do chords with melody,
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unlike let's say for learning
flute, it's like kind of just
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melody or violin.
So you can have an entire
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orchestration at your fingertips
and you're learning, you know,
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you're you're learning
multitasking.
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And it's just, yeah.
So that, that was a really good
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introduction.
Yeah.
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I learned the organ.
I know I'm as a 70s kid.
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Oh, sexy, right?
Two hands, two different levels,
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foot pedals.
It was a lot it.
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Was the one downside is that you
can't exactly pull out an organ
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to impress?
The girls.
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At the beach, yeah, No.
It was in the basement.
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Come on.
I was like, oh thank God.
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Actually so cool though.
I'm like picturing you in a dark
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dingy.
Basement no, you have to imagine
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like the wood paneling and the
stucco cement on the steps on
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the way down and like I still my
left hand still nodes my cords
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CFD GC like I could still do it.
OK, we're gonna jam one of these
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days.
I don't.
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I don't have thing here.
Yeah, for me it was Oregon.
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So cool guitar, saxophone that
those are the three do.
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You know how to play those?
Not anymore, I can definitely
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play piano and read music, but
like very poorly now.
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Like it used to just come that I
really wanted to learn guitar,
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but my guitar teacher and in
hindsight I had really good
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instincts.
He would sit behind me.
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It was really creepy and he
would like, I could feel him
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breathe.
I was like, Nama, I don't I
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don't think I want to go there
again.
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Like that was weird.
And then I really wanted to
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learn to play saxophone like
quarter flash and like, who can
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it be?
Like just whatever the 80s
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saxophone.
There was a time when the
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saxophone was this shit, right?
Alto sax except for like 2-3
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factors for me personally, which
is why I love musicians in
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general.
Which is when you practice
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because so much practice has to
go into it.
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There's no muting A saxophone,
right?
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It's loud.
There's.
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No volume.
Knob no volume and the read like
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to get it the right wet right
whatever.
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I also didn't like that it
because I was like 1516.
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I was like my lip is going to
get hard.
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What are you talking about?
No, that's like a hard pass.
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And the ultimate reason was I
could not hit the note G Like I
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couldn't hit that unless I
rolled my eyes back.
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I was like, that is not cute.
I quit.
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Just couldn't find that GI.
Just couldn't.
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Don't you figure out there?
Nice, nice.
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Back to you.
OK, so so piano.
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Piano and then in my rebellious
like 13 year old 12, I, I found
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drums and that I just loved like
that was like, I think that was
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when I'm like, Oh, I'm going to
do this like I, I did.
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I, I practiced so much and no
one made me and I just put in my
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headphones And at the time it
was just like a bunch of like
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metal songs because I went from
R&B boys to men to metal.
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Which metal?
What is your metal?
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What was it?
Honestly back then it was
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anything I could find.
You know, it was pre streaming
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music so it was whatever CDI
could get my hand on.
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But honestly, at the time it was
like Metallica and and then I
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got until really, really into
like Deftones, still love
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Deftones.
Anything that screamed, anything
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that was angry, I was like cool,
like my bar was so low.
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And then so I played in bands
from sort of that point on as a
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drummer and then, you know,
found melody and chords with
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guitar.
And so and then I play a little
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bit of cello.
I always say I don't play
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anything great, but I play like
a couple things decent, which is
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actually really handy for a
songwriter because as a writer,
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you it's not even the need to
execute everything perfectly.
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You know, the, the, it's just
the need for an understanding of
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these different instruments so
that you can make these songs
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with all the different parts and
arrangements.
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Yeah.
So like, where did sliding Down
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the Hill start then?
Like if you're writing your own
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music, like, yeah, so.
I think that probably came from
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a chord progression, like on the
piano, just blah, blah, blah,
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blah, blah, that arpeggiating
thing.
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And and then probably, yeah.
So I mean, what would that
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usually?
It either starts on piano or
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guitar usually.
And I'll like recorded in Logic
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and then just start adding
instruments.
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And honestly, thank God for
technology.
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Thank God for recording software
because I'm not a Mozart.
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I'm not a or a modern day
reference would be like a Jake
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Jacob Collier or Brian Wilson
who can like just hear it in
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their head and be like, cool and
then like, right.
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And I, I don't even get how that
happens.
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I'm going to record it and then
toy with it, fuss with it, you
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know, and layer on top.
I I without modern technology, I
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would not be, you know, a
compose.
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I don't.
I couldn't be the composer that
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I am writing.
OK, so do you start with then
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you like a melody or a note or
an idea like where does it
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start?
Or is it like the poetry of the
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lyrics that started like all
songs are lyrical like that way
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to me so.
I mean, I always say there's no
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wrong answer, right?
Like if you ask me, I say melody
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is king.
I find the melody over chords,
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and then I try to make the best
words fit into that.
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But still, even if the best word
doesn't sound because different
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syllables, different vowels
sound differently in different
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moments, if that doesn't sound
good, I don't care.
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There's no hard rule.
Like sometimes.
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OK, so yeah.
But usually melody is king.
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But if you ask like someone like
a Bob Dylan.
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Hear about him I'm talking to?
You about I would say like but
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he would say like lyrics are
king, right, But yeah, me melody
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is king.
Try to find that perfect spot of
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like having the best lyrics fit
the best melody.
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And honestly, there's so many
songs that I love that I've
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heard a million times.
And if you ask me what the
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lyrics are, I might not be able
to tell you.
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I could tell you what syllables
like I feel like sound, I could
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sing along to it.
And syllabolically, that's not a
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word.
I love that word.
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It's a new word.
But it but sometimes I'm like, I
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realize like, oh, I've never
even thought about like what the
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words are.
OK, this is this is going to be
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my favorite question now.
So is there a song lyric that
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you've gotten really wrong that
you swore was really right?
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Like because you don't.
Hear.
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Right, like there are like
1,000,000 songs where that has
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happened.
I don't know.
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One that comes to mind is like,
I mean, Radiohead's like my
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favorite band.
And I remember being at a
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Radiohead concert and there was
this like this, this line that
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is such an important line
apparently.
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Because like, when this moment
came, this sort of like the he
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stopped singing and so the crowd
could sing it.
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And so I sung what I thought it
was.
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I don't really remember what,
Yeah, I don't remember what,
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what, what it was, but I
remember everyone saying it and
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me saying something completely
different with my fist in the
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ear, you know, because it's
like, and then just feeling so
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dumb because, because I clearly
got it so wrong.
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But yeah, that that happens all
the time.
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I love it.
OK, so how many concerts have
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you like?
Did you go to where you're like
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always going?
When you I used to go to a lot.
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It's it's kind of sad how how
not often I go to concerts now.
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It's like, it's such a shame,
like what I do and but I've
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gotten a little bit lazy.
But yeah.
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And honestly, right now it's
like, because back then I would
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just go to a show to go to a
show, right?
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Get out of the house and, you
know, there's just like a
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community when you're young of
like my friend's band is playing
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here and, you know, there's like
a scene.
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And as you get older, you're not
in the scene anymore.
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So you just go kind of you kind
of just go see the bands that
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you love and not the bands that
you like.
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Like, you know, which is
unfortunate because yeah, I mean
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those bands need.
Prices went up like it's like a
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whole thing now.
Like to go to the show?
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And I'm like, so I'm in
Charlotte and people don't come
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to Charlotte, they go to
Atlanta.
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Like on a good day, that's a 5
hour drive.
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Yeah, like you're killing me.
That's wrong.
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I don't know if I ever drive 5
hours to go to a show.
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Yeah, there.
Just saying.
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But soon, Oh no, I would totally
go play there.
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But you know.
Obviously, obviously.
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OK, so a bunch of instruments
like did you go to school for
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music?
Like was your family behind your
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music or are they like.
I'm actually quite illiterate
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when it comes to OK so how?
How do I equate?
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It's like knowing how to speak
without knowing how to read.
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I can't read music off of a
sheet, but I know music theory,
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you know, to play.
So once my parents kind of saw
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me getting really into music,
they got me, they saw me getting
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too into music to where it was
the only thing that mattered.
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And that's not good for Asian
parents that want doctors and
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lawyers.
So they would, my mom would sort
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of use it as an incentive like,
OK, I'll pay for drum lessons or
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guitar lessons if you get good
grades.
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And then I wouldn't get good
grades because I just was so bad
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in school.
So then they would stop.
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So I remember, yeah, my drum
lessons and guitar lesson like
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they stopped.
And so really just became, and
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there was like no YouTube back
then.
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So I started to learn it through
a bit by ear and a lot through
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like friends.
Like friends that played guitar,
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like them showing me what they
knew when I was like this
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exchange.
You learn a song and then you
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show your friend how to play it.
So is it like a tactile learning
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for you?
Like I'm really curious.
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I'm trying to figure out like
where music lives in you, right?
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Like when I like dance, right is
I still dance.
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It's like it just it's like
inside out.
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Like I just got to get it out.
I got to do it, but I have no
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ability to choreograph nor do I
want to.
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So I'm like really fascinated
between the juxtaposition of
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having music in you and needing
to get it out and like, how does
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it come out of your hands?
Like where does it start?
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And also like the difference
between in performing like your
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version of creep, right, which
is out in there.
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And I could tell how much you
like it.
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How did you learn if you're
learning from your friends?
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Like I can't learn from a
screen.
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Like if I was in student today,
I would not be very good because
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I just, I'm easily distracted by
this and it it's not 3D enough
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for me to touch.
So if you're learning music in a
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tactile way, because it's your,
you know, friend or someone near
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you, is the first thing that
makes sense like how the chord
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feels in your hand?
Or is it like a feeling that you
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want to connect with and so you
learn the music of the feeling?
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Did that make sense?
Yeah, I, I think so.
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And so when you're starting out
and you've not really learned
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the language yet, you and you're
just sort of imitating people
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that speak the words.
Again, this is my poor analogy
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of language and music.
It is very tactile because you
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don't know why that chord works
yet.
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So you're just doing the thing
and you're just like, OK, cool.
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So it's very yeah.
And then, but once you start to
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realize why notes, certain notes
work together and why certain
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notes don't, then it becomes a
bit more cerebral and, and you
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sort of get to learn the rules
of what to do and what not to
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do.
And then when you, and then when
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you get even more comfortable,
then you get to learn there are
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no rules.
And then you, you know, like
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once you, you have to learn the
rules to get to learn which ones
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you can break and which ones you
can't basically.
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So it becomes less time, less
sort of physical then and a bit
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more cerebral.
But because, again, lyrics are
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secondary.
So it's not like a song starts
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off with me being like, I need
to express this thing.
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It starts off like, I want to
hear this sound and I don't
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think I hear it right.
I can't find a song that like
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sounds like that.
So let me just try to make it.
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And then a lot of times I'll
make it and be like, oh, that's
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why it sucks.
OK, cool.
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So this like thing that works in
theory in my head, I, I, I, I,
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you know, you make it a thing
and then it's like, OK, that's
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why it doesn't exist.
I feel that.
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I feel, I feel like I've
experienced that same thing.
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I'm fascinated that you are in
search of sound like that's like
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nothing I've experienced or.
Yeah, well, like.
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That's amazing.
Again, when you're starting you,
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all you want to do is imitate
your heroes.
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So you're not making anything
new because you're, again,
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you're learning the language.
So you're I heard this thing
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where Hunter S Thompson would
word for word rewrite Moby Dick
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just and and and not adding
anything, but just to learn the
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rhythm of his favorite writers
that sort of choices.
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And then from there on out, you
sort of take what you like and
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you add it to your arsenal as a
writer.
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That's.
Fascinating.
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That sounds like punishment to.
Me, yeah, a little, a little
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bit, right.
Doesn't sound fun to me, but
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that's like really what doing a
cover is you're, you're learning
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the choices that this other
artist made and then adding what
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you like to your arsenal.
But.
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It's kind of fascinating.
I'll keep going back to create.
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We also did like Alanis
Morissette recently.
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So like I'm you have as a person
who isn't musical in a way that
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I would ever claim it, but loves
music, right?
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I always have it going on for
me.
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You have that right.
Like that's your sauce.
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You're like the, like you like
that.
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I don't say I don't know how to
like say that because I don't
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have a vocabulary of music,
which is part of why I want to
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have these conversations.
But like you have that.
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Interesting thing that I can't
quite read you like in a way
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that I was like, OK, so you have
this softness, but you play
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indie rock and there's like some
guttural thing that's dying to
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come out.
I just keep thinking I'm like,
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where's like, is it?
Are they gonna scream now?
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But that's when you like, bring
in more dynamics with your
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music, right?
So I'm.
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Yeah, I'm not much of A, you
know, it's weird when when I was
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a kid, I, I had a really good
scream.
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I don't know where it went or
what happened, or maybe puberty.
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Are you too happy?
Maybe maybe I was kind of happy
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then, but no, actually I wasn't
at all.
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And maybe that's what it is, But
even now I can't really scream
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and when I try, it doesn't
really sound great.
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But I I've always loved the
pairing of ethereal, whispery,
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soft vocals against I mean,
again, Deftones, right?
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He like it sounds like, I mean,
he does scream, right?
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And he has a killer scream.
But there are parts where it
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sounds like if you isolated the
vocals, it could be like an Enya
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song or something like and then
you.
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Oh my God, I haven't heard that
name in forever.
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That's amazing.
That's amazing, showing my age.
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But.
And, you know, you pair it
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against the proper
instrumentation and that
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dichotomy creates something
special.
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And so while I love music that
sort of hits, yeah, I don't
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think I think I'll let the bass
or the drums sort of be that
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thing and and and let the voice
be a little bit softer, but.
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It just dipped.
You're like, oh, I.
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Don't know it's it's my morning
voice even though it's sad.
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Excellent.
That's excellent.
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I'm like, I think I'm like
wondering because you brought up
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being Asian and I am not for
anyone who's just listening and
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can't figure that out.
I think I'm like curious
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culturally, do you think
anything from your house or your
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culture or like what you were
surrounded by also influences
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your choices or how you want to
make music?
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Or do you have to just prove it
wrong?
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Be like no I wasn't a lawyer but
damn bitch boom I make I'm doing
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good.
Well, I'll say this when I was
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young, probably a lot of Asian
Americans can relate to this.
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I wanted to push away my sorry,
I want to push away my
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Koreanness as much as I can.
I wanted to be just like my
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American friends that have, you
know, pizza and, and burgers for
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dinner instead of weird Korean
food.
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And, you know, I wanted to just
be as American as I can.
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And when as I get older, I I
realized the amazing things
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about my ethnicity, that Korean
food, it fucking rolls so good.
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I cook.
It so I'm there I'm.
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There and Korean cinema.
Great.
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You know, that there's things
about my sort of roots that I'm
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embracing now in my later years.
So for example, Francis Doom.
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My my.
OK, so my American name is
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Francisco, but I've always hated
it for some reason.
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I don't know why.
Maybe because like, well, you
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know, kids would call you like
Francis or, you know, like like
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a dig.
And then so I always went by
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Jay, cuz that's oddly enough
that's my Korean name.
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Anyway, so my whole life I went
by Jay.
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And then with this new project,
I'm like embracing all the
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things that I didn't like about,
you know, so Francis, like the
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sort of the dig that I sort of
ran away from.
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It's like part of the reason why
this project is called that.
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But but yeah, all these things
about my past that I always sort
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of ran away from, I'm sort of
embracing now.
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I don't even know how we got
here.
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It's good.
I like that.
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I told you, I told you I don't.
We don't have to be linear.
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That's the best part, too.
Artistic because my brain does
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not work linearly.
It's all good.
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It's all good.
No, I was just curious because I
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hear a lot of people, I guess
for me nowadays, everyone's
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sticking a label on something,
right?
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You're this, you're that, you're
this.
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And I think all the labels
divide where I grew up.
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I felt very other as well, like
I just felt other.
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I didn't see the world the way
literally other people did.
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I didn't experience.
I just didn't know why my purple
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shoes bothered people.
I just was like, this is who I
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am.
I'm still that way.
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If you don't like me, leave me
the fuck alone.
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Like if you do like me, sweet.
Otherwise you're like, we could.
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You don't have to like me.
Just don't be mean.
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Like that's my thing.
So for me, when I ended up being
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in LA and living there for 18
years, I was so surrounded by
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other people who were just as
curious about the world, right?
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So I'm just listening to people
tell so many stories about how
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they felt other and it could be
ethnicity or race or religion.
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And I think nowadays we're
putting all of that out there so
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much.
So I don't know how to like ease
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it.
And I don't know how people can
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get into like loving and
accepting.
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Do you think it was just the
time?
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Do you think it was because your
household was different?
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Like I'm just kind of curious,
like how I might be damaging my
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own teenager because she's got a
weird mother and I have so many
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influences around me because I'm
just curious.
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Like, do you think you would
have the same feeling of being
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embarrassed by your Korean
American heritage if you were
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growing up now?
Oh, good question.
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Sorry, now I see.
I'll get, I'll get your
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language.
We'll get this synced.
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In Hold on, let me take a big
chunk of coffee, yeah.
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Yeah, drink your coffee.
I have a sip of water.
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That is a great question.
And I actually, I'm, I'm smiling
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right now thinking about it
because, because Korean food is
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sort of mainstream now.
So it's, I remember bringing it
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to lunch and Kate's being like,
that smells weird, but.
431
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Like what would you be like?
What would you bring?
432
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:53,960
Being like, what would you
bring?
433
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,280
Yeah, like whatever my, you
know.
434
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,680
Whatever she.
Leftovers from Yeah and it's
435
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:01,960
kind of a happy thought that a
kid might bring it to school now
436
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,520
and kids would be like whoa like
you know I guess saw that on
437
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:10,640
like Anthony Bourdain like so I
hope that's the case that that
438
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,440
that that's a really beautiful
thing actually.
439
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:16,080
I mean, especially with for all
the downsides of the Internet,
440
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:22,800
right, one of the few upsides is
everyone can find their people
441
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:28,360
that for all the weirdos, you
can find your community of
442
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,880
weirdos that are weird, weird in
similar ways as you, you know,
443
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:34,240
because everyone's weird, but
weird in similar ways as you.
444
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:39,280
And K pop is like big now.
So maybe maybe kids aren't as
445
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,760
ashamed to be courteous as I
was.
446
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,240
I don't know like.
Like, just like, were your
447
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:47,960
parents like, like are you first
generation?
448
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:49,600
Yeah, first generation.
OK.
449
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,600
Yeah, my mom was literally
pregnant with me when she came
450
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:55,440
here, and I was I was born here,
so I just made it.
451
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,760
Yeah, let's not go there.
You knew, you read my brain.
452
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:02,640
I'm psychic.
I'm.
453
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,440
Psychic is my face that
transparent that.
454
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,960
Yes, you are.
To me, you're quite.
455
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:11,800
You're like if you are a very
fascinating mix of person in
456
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:17,320
that you are transparent and
guarded, Ish Gray and like.
457
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:23,840
Yeah, like, like I feel like the
inner thoughts debating and
458
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,600
judging what might come out, I'm
like just just likely you.
459
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:29,560
Know my God, you are so good at
reading people because that's.
460
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,680
Literally clairvoyant like so
like, that's what I do.
461
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,920
But no, seriously.
So like I was like.
462
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,880
I am, I tell people that because
I could just go there.
463
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,880
If you can handle it like we
can, we can go there.
464
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:46,960
But that is also fascinating
because again, we are strangers,
465
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,600
right?
And so I usually ask permission.
466
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,240
Can I read you some?
And then if you say yes, then
467
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,880
I'll get more.
I really try to not be like
468
00:25:55,880 --> 00:26:00,960
invasive that way because I can
know things about you that maybe
469
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,680
you don't want me to know about
you.
470
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:05,200
So I try to keep a really good
boundary.
471
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:09,280
I had this strange person,
literally strange, come up to me
472
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,880
at an event I was at.
And I could tell that they were
473
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,160
also like intuitive and
whatever.
474
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,640
And I could feel like her energy
coming at me.
475
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,040
So it felt like, it felt like
hooks coming at me.
476
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:21,120
I was like, whoa.
I looked at her.
477
00:26:21,120 --> 00:26:22,840
I go, yeah, no, I didn't give
you permission.
478
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:27,280
She's like, you can feel that.
I was like, yeah, no, like a big
479
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,600
NO.
But I'm going to get to a really
480
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:34,920
simple question.
As a musician, you are sharing
481
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,840
yourself physically and
emotionally with strangers all
482
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:42,520
the time.
How much do you give and how
483
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:49,520
much do you keep for yourself?
When it comes to like the
484
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:55,600
writing, I try to give
everything because who wants to
485
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,880
hear a song about how cool you
are, right?
486
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,720
Like, it it.
It should be embarrassing and it
487
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:05,400
should be vulnerable, right?
Because what is art if not that?
488
00:27:06,360 --> 00:27:09,960
But then when it comes to
marketing, admittedly, I I do
489
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:14,080
definitely just try to be cool,
like just try to come off cool
490
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,720
and like, I hope you like me.
I hope you like this song.
491
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:18,520
You know what I mean?
Like.
492
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,280
That is not how you you come
out.
493
00:27:20,360 --> 00:27:21,880
Like I have all these like
little notes.
494
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,160
Wait, all my awesome post.
Its I told you about.
495
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,720
I was like, I was thinking about
this a lot before, like we
496
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,320
started talking about like sex
appeal, right.
497
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:34,640
Like so there's Trappy.
You've got the voice you have
498
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,760
you're awesome followers who
like beg you to say things.
499
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:44,240
Yeah, which they're very funny.
I think I found you originally
500
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,400
from Book Talk.
Oh wow, interesting.
501
00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:50,480
So like I heard you reading
things.
502
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,760
I was like, this is too much.
And then I would read the
503
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:56,840
comments and I would be like, I
stamp my foot when I laugh
504
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,800
really hard.
I would just be like, ladies
505
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,280
easy.
And then I was like, I guess
506
00:28:03,360 --> 00:28:06,160
anonymity.
I, I don't whatever it is that
507
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,160
they have or that they're doing,
I don't do.
508
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,960
It doesn't mean that clearly
you're we don't have those
509
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:17,120
parts, but you are marketing
your sexuality in one way or
510
00:28:17,120 --> 00:28:18,360
other.
What's that feel like?
511
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,240
Well, see.
Your face.
512
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:24,920
I wish I.
Had a.
513
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:26,480
Mirror.
Oh wait, you'll see the video
514
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,080
OK.
So I don't actually look at it
515
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:33,600
as marketing my sexuality.
I may be using sexuality to
516
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:39,680
market the music, but you know,
all of it is to market the
517
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:43,320
music, which is why I always
stick the song at the end, you
518
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:47,040
know.
But yeah, that that's an
519
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:50,960
interesting one because, well,
first of all, sexuality is a
520
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:55,520
part of me.
I am, you know, not that I'm
521
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:58,640
depraved, but you know, it's
semi DNA.
522
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,160
It's it's a part of who I am.
You're.
523
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,240
A grown person, Yeah.
Good.
524
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,400
You know, sexuality is fun too.
So I'm showing these bits of who
525
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,520
I am that's gonna fall into it,
along with my weird sense of
526
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:15,000
humor, along with my emo
sincerity along with all of it.
527
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:19,800
Yeah, so there's that.
The thing about the book talk
528
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:24,600
stuff that is kind of weird is
that I just like when people
529
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,560
request covers, I'm like, oh, I
love that song.
530
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,880
I get it.
I get why you want that.
531
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,840
It's a beautiful song.
With the book talk stuff, I'm
532
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,560
like, I don't really get it, but
it helps the music.
533
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,440
So OK, like, I mean, like as far
as my voice, I'm like, I don't
534
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:42,200
get like there's dudes on here
on on TikTok with like the
535
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:45,160
British accents and like, oh, I
get that.
536
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:48,120
That dude kills it.
Like he, you know, he nailed it.
537
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,920
So there, there's that.
But then there's also like, I
538
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:55,880
also don't like let it get to my
head because my voice, it's like
539
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,360
it's pairing with an image that
they have in their head of this
540
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:02,800
character that I am not from
this book that did things that I
541
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:03,600
did not to.
Oh.
542
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:05,240
I think you're wrong.
What?
543
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,320
It is a pairing of if you want
to know, wait, I have to do your
544
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:09,680
80 age brain.
I have to go slower.
545
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,640
Yeah, Yeah.
Your brain is so fascinating.
546
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:16,480
Like right now, it's like
Tetris, like moving cubes
547
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:17,720
around.
It's fascinating.
548
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:24,640
It's like they have an image of
you that you share, right?
549
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,560
So they have this and we'll do
your emo, right?
550
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:31,920
You've got like the Moody
backlit Mike lean forward, hair
551
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:33,680
coming.
Like it's the whole fantasy,
552
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:35,600
right?
Like you have like a significant
553
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,480
fantasy that you're giving and
you have a great voice, right?
554
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,000
I don't want you to think I'm
just making fun.
555
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,240
I I'm very sarcastic, so just.
No, me too.
556
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:45,280
Me too.
Please.
557
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,120
Deprecation is like my own
language.
558
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:50,320
So then you have like that you
have that fantasy along with
559
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,760
whatever that line is that they
also have it.
560
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,320
They're just, you're just,
you're like the double fantasy
561
00:30:56,320 --> 00:31:01,720
for like that whole thing.
And if if I had that ability and
562
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:04,160
could keep a straight face, I
would be there like I'd be like,
563
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:05,680
yeah, let's let's totally do
that.
564
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,360
But I would.
That's why the videos are so
565
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:08,800
short, because I can't keep a
straight face.
566
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,200
No, Andy, my producer knows how
I feel about listening back to
567
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,640
like these podcasts is brutal
for me.
568
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,920
No, I know it's like watching
your sex tape.
569
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,600
It's like like why do I look
like that?
570
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,160
Why did I do that thing with my
anyways?
571
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:26,720
But.
See, now you're just adding fuel
572
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,760
to those women inspires.
They're like, wait, they're like
573
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,360
they're going through.
They're like he has a tape
574
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:36,280
somewhere.
There was before Francis doom, I
575
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,000
was in the previous band and I
very much pushed away social
576
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,880
media and like AI guess if I'm
too cool or something.
577
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,360
I don't know, too shy, too
afraid.
578
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:49,160
And with this new project, I
told myself I'm going to do
579
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:53,160
everything to try to make this
work.
580
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:55,640
Everything that's with within
who I am.
581
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,920
I mean, you know, I'm not going
to start an only fans, but, you
582
00:31:59,920 --> 00:32:02,640
know, embrace social media.
And so I made a TikTok for the
583
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:08,960
first time and and and then this
book talk thing and turns out
584
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:12,240
it's a good conduit for people
to check out my music.
585
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:15,520
I honestly, if it wasn't all for
like if the end game wasn't for
586
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:18,280
people to find my music, I just
wouldn't do it.
587
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:25,000
But so, yeah, so I'm just, you
know, embracing all the all the
588
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,600
things.
I, I know plenty of, I know a
589
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:31,320
lot of authors, but I was like,
oh, so I think I've sent them a
590
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,440
few of them here.
I was like, for your book here,
591
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:34,720
maybe.
What do you think?
592
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,080
Because I, I love doing that.
That's just like so fun.
593
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:41,800
Well, that's, I mean, this led
me to this whole thing led me to
594
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,160
doing voice over like narration
for and that's a separate thing
595
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,600
that's just to pay the bills
and, you know, separate from the
596
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:50,400
music.
But but yeah, it's fun.
597
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,400
Yeah, like work it, you have
like you have the tool, you
598
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,560
might as well really like
explore and go to town with it.
599
00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:59,400
Like I love that.
I love that.
600
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:03,080
I hope by by the tool you're
talking about not just stop.
601
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:05,840
We're gonna have to air this one
at night.
602
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:07,480
There'll have to be a rating on
this one.
603
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:09,600
I haven't joked like this with
other people.
604
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:11,800
It's so funny, but it's like.
It's a safe space.
605
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:13,720
It's just, it's just my sense of
humor.
606
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:17,000
I am really particular, which is
probably why my social media
607
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,760
isn't very big yet.
I'm really guarded about like my
608
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:22,960
privacy.
And I think it's because I did
609
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:26,400
write that essay about getting
thrown on a table and dry humped
610
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:30,640
in front of a crew, a film crew,
and it went viral because it was
611
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:32,480
published before I knew it was
going out.
612
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,640
And it was only when there was
Twitter.
613
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,440
So there wasn't really it's like
Facebook and Twitter.
614
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,280
So there was no, it was a long
time ago, all the rest of it.
615
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,360
And I had thousands of messages
from people telling me they were
616
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,200
typos.
I was like, really, bitch, this
617
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:51,240
is like what you're telling me?
But it was a lot of attention.
618
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,840
And then it got tension
attention in LA and the
619
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:57,160
Directors Guild had a meeting.
They had a meeting like they
620
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,600
called in all their members and
I had friends there and they
621
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:04,400
were telling me it was about me.
They weren't using my name, but
622
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:12,080
people like would not stand up
for me or verify it for fear of
623
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:17,679
not working right.
So I'm really protective of who
624
00:34:17,679 --> 00:34:20,280
knows this part of me.
Like, are you going to twist
625
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:22,000
that?
Like what's going to come back?
626
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:26,760
I I think like the safety of
that is still unknown.
627
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:30,040
I'm kind of Gary.
Nah, it's crazy.
628
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,679
Yeah, wait.
So OK, I'm going to do some
629
00:34:33,679 --> 00:34:35,360
digging after this.
Yeah, OK.
630
00:34:36,639 --> 00:34:38,880
But this is about you.
Anyway, OK.
631
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,719
OK, so you wrote a song about
your dog.
632
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:46,080
Was that really about your dog?
Yeah, it was.
633
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:47,159
No.
Where is the dog?
634
00:34:47,159 --> 00:34:48,320
How can we stop in the
background?
635
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,040
You know, she's out there.
She's being very lazy.
636
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:56,080
That's a good morning.
Yeah, she's, she used to have so
637
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,040
much more energy.
Yeah, she's getting older and
638
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:02,000
it's making me sad.
But actually, that's what the
639
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,280
song was about.
It's, you know, I don't write
640
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,320
many love songs because I just
think, well, you know, there's
641
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,600
just a lot of them in the world
and maybe that's the last thing
642
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:16,560
we need is another love song,
although maybe not, but is
643
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,200
there?
A song like about a love song
644
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:20,720
from the 70s.
And that's how it's.
645
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,240
You need to do that one.
Yeah, yeah.
646
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:28,920
But you know, I the song's about
I do this thing with with Layla
647
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:33,920
and my dog where because I think
about I'm so fucked.
648
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,480
This is, I think about our last
moments a lot like what it's
649
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,520
going to be like because, you
know, the dog's lifespan is so
650
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,040
short and so.
My dog just died 2 weeks ago.
651
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:44,200
So sorry.
I know.
652
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,320
Thank you.
Animal.
653
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:47,960
Animal deaths.
Like don't even.
654
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,160
Harder than human deaths, I
swear.
655
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:55,280
But, you know, I think about her
on this cold metal table at the
656
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,960
vet's office and not knowing
what's going on and me not being
657
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,600
able to convey what I want to
convey because we don't speak
658
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:05,920
the same language, right?
And so I always do this thing
659
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:10,600
now and I've done it for years
where I, you know, hold her head
660
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,240
like I do when I put my forehead
against hers.
661
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,640
And I just repeat, I love you.
I love you.
662
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,920
I love you.
And not because like the words
663
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,760
themselves mean anything on an
English language, like, you
664
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:28,320
know, but I just, I want, I want
to build that association so
665
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:32,200
that in those final moments when
I do that, she will know one
666
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:36,000
that I'm here and, and that
she's.
667
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,280
Yeah, vibration though, like
literally your voice is right
668
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,440
because you've got that that we
keep talking about.
669
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:48,080
Like you have that tone that
that's exactly what I did with
670
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:49,280
my dog.
I just held him.
671
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:50,920
I was like, I love you, I love
you, I love you.
672
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:55,240
See, now I'm going to get.
I'm sorry and and I try not to
673
00:36:55,240 --> 00:36:58,480
say it when I leave like cuz
sometimes it it comes out and
674
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,480
I'm like, I got to catch myself
cuz it's like I don't I don't
675
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,280
want her to associate.
I love you with I'm leaving now.
676
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:05,920
Bye.
So I I I just missed a?
677
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:09,360
Lot of thought.
I know so so sometimes I say it
678
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,800
like just cuz I do love her and
then I realized I've said it.
679
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,280
I have to hang around for like
another like minute and 1/2, you
680
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,200
know, just like oh shit, I said
OK.
681
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:21,240
Like I sort of like, wait, I, I
don't know about your personal
682
00:37:21,240 --> 00:37:23,360
life because I'm not a stalker,
but I was like, so now like the
683
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,040
all I'm thinking is you can say
I love you as you leave.
684
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,280
I like, it's the perfect thing.
Like no baby, you said I love
685
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:29,160
you.
I get 5 more minutes.
686
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:29,720
Yeah.
Yeah.
687
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,520
So that that's why the song is
called Little Words, because
688
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:38,560
it's, you know, the, you know
these words, it's like they're
689
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,000
like small little boxes and
you're trying to pack so much
690
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:44,760
meaning into them.
Like I think like in my world,
691
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:49,200
how I experience it is like, so
sound like we all know has
692
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,360
wavelength so it has energy, so
it comes and moves anyway even
693
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:55,120
if someone doesn't understand it
as does.
694
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,800
Like when you don't make fun, I
can't drum.
695
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,360
Like when you're drumming.
You're doing it.
696
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,400
That's.
Or like, I love that song.
697
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,720
Go on.
It's the best one.
698
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,480
My 8 age opinion is like I just
went to a whole other story.
699
00:38:07,720 --> 00:38:10,280
I was like you are giving all
that moment.
700
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,440
I would not worry.
I'm telling you like that the
701
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,400
dog gets it and don't worry
about saying I love you and not
702
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,240
they don't.
They're not that deep after a
703
00:38:19,240 --> 00:38:20,720
while even though we want them
to be.
704
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:24,720
But I want to know.
Also another lyric is you like
705
00:38:24,720 --> 00:38:26,680
you look like hell but you wear
it well.
706
00:38:26,720 --> 00:38:29,920
So is that you or someone else?
So that is or.
707
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:31,920
Is that not your lyric?
But it was your music, because
708
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,680
you're the music guy.
Well, I mean, it's all, it's all
709
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:40,280
my lyrics, but it's, you know,
so OK, going back to love songs
710
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,280
that have been written millions
of times.
711
00:38:42,720 --> 00:38:45,720
I want to write a love song
about, you know, there's plenty
712
00:38:45,720 --> 00:38:49,520
of songs and movies about young
love, young exciting love.
713
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:52,800
And then and then they finally
get together and then and
714
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:55,880
credits, right.
But what about the love that
715
00:38:55,880 --> 00:39:02,600
remains 30 years later, like
old, weathered, sustaining love,
716
00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:05,840
Right.
And that's the sort of love I
717
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,760
want to write about.
So that's the songs about this
718
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:13,360
couple that are like later in
life and they're sort of out on
719
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:17,080
the town, like trying to feel
young again, realizing that it's
720
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,200
just not them and the silliness
of it all.
721
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:22,000
And.
And then, you know, they get
722
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,280
home and they send the
babysitter home and, you know,
723
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,760
and then they're people just
trashed and, you know, exhausted
724
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:34,400
and but but yeah, but you know,
that's sort of like you look
725
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:37,400
like hell.
Like I I pictured like, you
726
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:42,040
know, my wife with our future
child one day and just baby
727
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:45,320
vomit just like here and her
hair like this.
728
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:50,000
And but just saying you look
like hell, but it's just
729
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:54,720
beautiful because it's it's just
a beautiful, you know, it's such
730
00:39:54,720 --> 00:39:57,960
a beautiful thing that that's
sort of what all that indicates,
731
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,200
you know?
I mean, I'm there for I'm 22
732
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:04,480
years, so same relationship.
I'm like, that's crazy.
733
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:05,840
Really.
Yeah.
734
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,920
Yeah, 20 years married.
We were married in LA for 7:00,
735
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:11,920
so we count those in dog years.
So that's 49 plus.
736
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:16,240
Like that's our joke because the
minute he got a ring, women hit
737
00:40:16,240 --> 00:40:19,120
on him more.
Ah, I'm like, we're out to
738
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:23,120
dinner.
I'm right here like.
739
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:26,640
Maybe people are getting Polly
vibes, you know, I mean.
740
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,600
I'm, yeah, I'm.
I'm way too jealous of a person
741
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,400
for that.
I could never Polly.
742
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:36,720
I could not Polly in real life.
I am so ridiculously faithful
743
00:40:36,720 --> 00:40:40,520
that this is so funny.
I had a dream about Jason Momoa
744
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:45,840
because Jason Momoa and he like
went to hug me and I was like,
745
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:47,960
dude, I'm married.
I woke up.
746
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,560
I was like.
You wouldn't even in your dream.
747
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,600
Come on, live a little, just in
your dream.
748
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,480
I know, I mean I have a really
good imagination, but asleep I
749
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,800
was like, I woke up.
I was like what is fucking
750
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,480
wrong?
Listen, next time you dream
751
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,560
about Jason Momoa, I want you to
tell yourself this is the one
752
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:06,600
time I can do.
This.
753
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,680
I have permission.
I'm sure my husband would give
754
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,400
me, but he was like, whatever.
Yeah, it's Jason Momoa.
755
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,440
I can't.
Hello.
756
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,440
It's so funny.
He's like, whatever.
757
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:18,600
You don't need to know it
anyway.
758
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,480
OK, So I'm going to give you one
piece of advice that I want you
759
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,440
to remember whenever you have
children.
760
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,400
If you have children reading,
it's the best thing you could
761
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:32,160
do.
If you want to still be romantic
762
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:36,560
with your wife when there's an
infant in the house, wash the
763
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,240
bottles.
Wash the bottles.
764
00:41:39,240 --> 00:41:41,400
Wash bottles.
Washing bottles is foreplay.
765
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:43,400
What?
Yeah.
766
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:45,560
Interesting.
And do a little laundry.
767
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:47,600
Yeah, like do I have?
Because wash them in a
768
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:50,880
suggestive sort of.
Manner you just have to wash
769
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,240
them.
I don't think this is
770
00:41:54,240 --> 00:41:56,440
suggestive, but like, I don't
know who you're married to it.
771
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,000
I mean, like, again, that's
your, that's your own whatever I
772
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:00,360
think.
Picture like.
773
00:42:00,720 --> 00:42:04,560
It's just because you're a
napkin like when the baby is
774
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:08,120
young, right?
You have like the vomit doesn't
775
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:11,960
go nicely on your shoulder.
What happens is you're up for
776
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,440
hours on end and you finally get
to make a cup of coffee.
777
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:17,400
You put the baby in a little
bouncy chair and you put your
778
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:20,240
coffee down and pour the Creamer
and the baby will projectile
779
00:42:20,240 --> 00:42:22,880
vomit into the Creamer and.
And.
780
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:27,360
Then you're just like, that is
not the Creamer I wanted.
781
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:29,960
These are not the droids you
were looking for.
782
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:32,760
I was like, no.
So if you do the little things
783
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:37,280
that will never not be there,
then you give her time to
784
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:40,680
breathe, and then you give her
time to remember who she was
785
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:44,160
when she wasn't mommy.
Because it's such a big identity
786
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:47,160
shift.
Yeah, actually that is valuable
787
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,960
information.
The best and the only other
788
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,160
advice is never listen to anyone
else's advice.
789
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:55,760
It's your house and your family.
But but washing bottles is
790
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,480
universal.
Let me tell you.
791
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,040
Let me tell you that one.
Interesting.
792
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:00,640
I'm going to get back to you on
that one.
793
00:43:00,720 --> 00:43:03,640
OK, I will be following you.
Oh, I put a song in to
794
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,480
recommend.
I was like Chris Isaak.
795
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:08,240
I think I put.
Wicked game.
796
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:10,120
You know, I actually did a
little snippet of it.
797
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:10,960
Did you?
Yeah.
798
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,200
You just go back a couple videos
and then you'll see it.
799
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:16,680
You'll see it.
I don't, I, I, I, I try not to
800
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:20,440
do I have to be very selective
of what I do full covers of and
801
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,680
release on Spotify because I
don't want my Spotify to just
802
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,080
become like just covers and
people think I'm just a cover
803
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,240
artist, but.
So do you always play with the
804
00:43:28,240 --> 00:43:30,320
same guys?
It's like, what's the name of
805
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,040
your band now?
Well, so.
806
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,120
It's Skullboy.
You're always wearing that
807
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:35,240
T-shirt.
That's like you're saying.
808
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,200
No, it's because I own 3T
shirts.
809
00:43:38,720 --> 00:43:41,960
I'm a minimalist.
This is a pizza place I got.
810
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:50,640
It's Schoolboy's Pizza Shack,
and because I'm a bum, so it's a
811
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,960
pizza place and yeah, and the
pizza was pretty good.
812
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,440
So yeah, maybe I'm endorsing
School Boys.
813
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:57,160
I forget where it.
Is.
814
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:03,120
Yeah, so I have the live band
and then, but conveniently when
815
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:08,280
I record, I just do everything
myself and actually base I have.
816
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:12,680
So when I record at my my
bassist, I use his spot and he's
817
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:16,720
a good engineer, so he engineers
for me and then and then he'll
818
00:44:16,720 --> 00:44:18,760
play bass because he's a really
good bassist.
819
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:22,720
So but everything else it's just
me and him.
820
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:26,960
And then live, I have a drummer
and a keyboardist, so we could
821
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:29,920
execute these songs live.
So you touring people are going
822
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:34,160
to want to now detour.
Hopefully soon you know the the
823
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,880
idea is just to get to a did.
You say the name of your band.
824
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,360
I don't think I even heard it.
Well, it's just Francis Doom,
825
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,040
OK?
Yeah, I didn't know it was like
826
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:43,560
your name or yeah.
Francis Doom and the Schoolboys.
827
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:49,000
You know, that's if that
happens, I'm just saying I get
828
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:49,520
credit.
Yeah.
829
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,800
Thanks, Holly.
Yeah, you get a cut.
830
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,320
Pizza place gets a cut.
Now I'm hungry.
831
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:58,680
But yeah, I know if it gets to a
point where because it's funny,
832
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:02,120
man, I used to hit the road when
my previous bands like lose
833
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:05,280
money, play to like 5 people in
the venue and just because it's
834
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:06,640
like, how else do you get your
name out?
835
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:11,240
But now with social media, make
a video, literally it's going to
836
00:45:11,240 --> 00:45:15,040
be seen by like, you know, a
couple 100 at least.
837
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:19,600
So it just has to make sense for
me to tour to where I'm not
838
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:21,120
going to lose money going out
there.
839
00:45:22,240 --> 00:45:24,640
I think what I think a lot of
people don't know that about
840
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:28,040
artists in general.
Like, so when you, let's just
841
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:32,040
say you're on a tour, it's you
driving, right, Right now, it's
842
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:35,400
you getting your equipment,
doing your sound checks.
843
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:39,960
It's so much more goes into a
performance, right?
844
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:41,960
Like how many hours of work do
you think goes into a
845
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:45,120
performance?
Well, I mean, it's not even the
846
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:47,080
performance, it's just a getting
there.
847
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:52,200
It's the gas, the rentals, the,
you know, the lodging and the
848
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:55,640
performance is such a small It's
funny because that's the thing,
849
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:56,480
right?
That's what you're going out
850
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,040
there to do.
But it's such a small factor
851
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:03,400
when when it comes to touring.
Just saw the logistics of it,
852
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,160
but sorry, I have to burp.
You're going to mute thing.
853
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:07,440
Can you meet this?
No, he'll do it.
854
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:09,600
OK.
There maybe one no?
855
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,400
It was nothing that was.
You didn't even have to mention
856
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:14,520
that.
What's the most outrageous thing
857
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:16,560
you've ever seen from stage
looking out?
858
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:26,200
Oh, you know, there was this,
there was this, I remember there
859
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:30,200
was this guy, not outrageous,
like even in a funny way, but he
860
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,920
was like, there was just like
this guy, like trying to talk to
861
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:36,080
this girl, right?
And it was like in a sort of
862
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:39,680
like romantic part of the song.
And he's like trying to get her
863
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:42,800
to like slow dance with her.
And I remember being like my
864
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:46,360
naive brain being like, oh,
that's kind of cute because I
865
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:48,640
thought they like, we're
together, you know what I mean?
866
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:52,600
And then as I'm, as I'm, the
song's progressing and I'm
867
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:57,080
seeing them and I'm realizing,
oh, she doesn't know him and she
868
00:46:57,080 --> 00:47:00,640
doesn't like this.
And like, I almost like stopped
869
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:02,800
the song and just like called
the dude out.
870
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,200
But then I like, thought, like,
and literally this is all
871
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,920
happening while like, words are
coming, like singing is
872
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:09,680
happening.
And I'm like, but then like, am
873
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:11,880
I putting her on the spot?
Like, OK, let me just see how
874
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:13,520
this resolves naturally.
So what?
875
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,000
And then by the end of the song,
he fucked off.
876
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:20,120
But but yeah, luckily we're not
the type of brain band where we
877
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,520
see crazy things.
Like there's not like bras being
878
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:27,400
thrown up at me or crazy mosh
pits, you know, they're more
879
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:29,960
like mush pits.
I always say they're nice and
880
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,480
just.
Like, are people like this?
881
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,200
And you know, like your music
was like this.
882
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,840
Yeah.
I think it's scientists.
883
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:38,480
No, let's just like, what is
that?
884
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,280
This is like my Stevie Wonder.
Just.
885
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,360
Like this?
I don't know, Do we?
886
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:44,440
I'm looking at my hands over
there.
887
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:46,680
That's poison.
Yeah.
888
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:50,320
Yeah, yeah, they're a.
Little more mellow.
889
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:52,680
Yeah, yeah.
So yeah, we're not.
890
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:56,880
And that's, that's why like,
it's very important that we
891
00:47:56,880 --> 00:48:02,040
rehearse and sound good because
we can't rely on stage antics
892
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:05,240
and energy.
Like it's just we just play and
893
00:48:05,240 --> 00:48:08,360
that has to be enough.
Because I'm not doing backflips.
894
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:10,840
I'm sorry, I'm not Benson
booting all over this.
895
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:12,920
Stage presence.
So are then You're the lead
896
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:13,920
singer.
It's your name.
897
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:17,080
Yeah, yeah.
I, I, it's just me on guitar I
898
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:21,120
sing and then keyboardist,
bassist, drummer.
899
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:25,960
And yeah, it's it's sort of a a
minimal setup.
900
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:28,200
So what do you listen to to get
amped?
901
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:32,240
Are you do you get amped before
you go?
902
00:48:32,240 --> 00:48:34,800
Like do you have nerd?
If you have ADHD, I know you're
903
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:36,520
you must be a procrastinator,
right?
904
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:38,840
So I'm like.
Refining my method, because in
905
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:41,720
my previous projects I would
sing actually like you, you
906
00:48:41,720 --> 00:48:45,480
wouldn't recognize my voice.
I sing really high a lot of like
907
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,800
falsettos and really just
because it was like, I don't
908
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,160
know, like my emo roots maybe
just like singing at the top of
909
00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:52,640
my register.
And so in those cases, I would
910
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:54,040
definitely like try to get amped
up.
911
00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:57,680
And now I'm realizing that it's
hard to sing a low when you're
912
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:01,240
not relaxed.
And so I would get amped up and
913
00:49:01,240 --> 00:49:05,000
then like come out and be like,
like, so I have to sort of stay
914
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:10,120
relaxed to some extent.
And, and I see like like Billie
915
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:13,880
Eilish performances and I'm so
impressed by her ability to be
916
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:18,520
like jumping around and then
whispering like she her vocal
917
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,520
control is like.
She's an insane talent.
918
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,280
She's insane.
She's like my favorite like pop
919
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,560
artist.
I saw Olivia Rodrigo.
920
00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:29,560
Yeah, she's dope.
She's dope.
921
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:32,600
She put on a huge.
I was like, I don't know, her
922
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,080
show is insane.
I was like, Oh my God.
923
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:39,440
And then Chapel Rhone opened for
her, so I got to see her before
924
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:42,120
she totally.
It was fascinating.
925
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:46,880
Yeah, I'm, I'm definitely, you
know, a lot of indie artists
926
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:50,120
would sort of stick their nose
up at pomp.
927
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,000
But I like pop.
Pop is dope.
928
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,240
And everything I'm like, I'm
just kind of eclectic.
929
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:59,200
OK, so what's your like?
What success do you want now?
930
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:03,120
Like what's your like?
I don't know.
931
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,120
I don't know.
We won five years.
932
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:06,800
I don't really care.
Like I'm just like, what are you
933
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:07,600
hungry for?
That's.
934
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:12,920
What I want to know my dream is
to be famous enough to pay the
935
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:18,320
bills with with just my craft,
but never famous enough to where
936
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:23,960
people that don't like like me
having OK, so all right, so I
937
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:25,280
know what you're saying.
You know what I'm saying, cuz
938
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:28,480
like, OK, like let's take one of
my favorite bands, seagull
939
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:30,120
rolls, right, They're a band
from Iceland.
940
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:35,800
And if you don't, if people that
let know them love them and the
941
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:38,240
people that don't love them just
don't know them.
942
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:40,960
So they're not like so big to
where everyone has to have an
943
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,920
opinion on them.
It's not like Benson Boone were
944
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:45,520
like you have to love or hate
him.
945
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:47,560
It's like.
It's a stash though, just
946
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:50,280
saying.
I mean, I think the Stevenies.
947
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:51,600
Porn stars.
I think he's a.
948
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,560
Very talented young man.
I'm impressed by him.
949
00:50:55,240 --> 00:50:57,960
I agree.
But but yeah, like, but
950
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,840
certainly they're paying their
bills with their art and that's
951
00:51:01,840 --> 00:51:04,280
just the sweet spot.
But what's paying your bills?
952
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:05,600
Like I want dream big.
All right?
953
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,240
So if, you know, I'm woo woo,
right?
954
00:51:07,240 --> 00:51:09,720
I got the thing and you're gonna
like speak something into
955
00:51:09,720 --> 00:51:10,960
creation with that.
Yeah.
956
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:13,760
Growl of yours, right.
For the family, that for
957
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:16,320
whatever life that you want,
Yeah.
958
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:21,160
My definition of success is I
can travel wherever I want in
959
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,880
the manner in which I want.
That would be dope.
960
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:25,520
That would be dope.
Yeah.
961
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:27,880
I'm not.
You know, again, I don't need
962
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:31,120
more than three shirts, but but
I don't need.
963
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:33,720
I'm going to have to find a
pizza place from here and just
964
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:36,200
like, I don't, I don't know
where you live, obviously.
965
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,720
Wait, let that be a thing where
I only wear pizza shirts.
966
00:51:38,720 --> 00:51:40,640
Let that be a thing.
That's.
967
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,800
My new gimmick I don't need.
We're going.
968
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,320
To have to do a thing and you're
going to have to get APO box and
969
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:48,000
we'll see how many shirts you
get.
970
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:50,800
OK, this is my new dream.
Can I change my dream?
971
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:52,240
I don't even want to do music
anymore.
972
00:51:52,240 --> 00:51:54,120
I just want to get this cool
piece of shit.
973
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:57,560
But yeah, I don't need a lot of
nice things.
974
00:51:57,560 --> 00:52:00,120
I have no desire for a fancy
car.
975
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,960
I have no desire for a watch,
you know?
976
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:06,520
But traveling sounds dope.
Yeah, I like that.
977
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:10,200
That sounds appealing.
And traveling on tour is
978
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:11,600
different.
Like like we're talking about
979
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:15,320
before, like when you go to a
place on tour, you go, you sound
980
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:19,560
check, you hit up the nearest
like pizza place for food and
981
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,200
then you play your show and then
you're out of there.
982
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:22,560
You don't really get to take a
place in.
983
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:29,200
So, yeah, you know, it's so
success would be like, yeah,
984
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,600
enough money to take care of
myself and the people that I
985
00:52:31,600 --> 00:52:35,560
love and and but not to the
point where like I need to
986
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:38,440
fucking Rolls Royce.
Like, let's be real.
987
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:41,680
Like that's ridiculous.
I don't know, like things don't
988
00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:44,520
define you, they don't make you
happy, they can't fill you up.
989
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,480
So.
I also think it says something
990
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,840
about you if you do own a rolls.
Like like you could have done so
991
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,640
much with that money.
That's what you decide to get.
992
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:56,440
Like fucking hell.
Travel agent who just came
993
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:59,040
across my TikTok.
I don't I think it's live or
994
00:52:59,240 --> 00:53:01,640
sounds like live or that's what
I'm making it up to be now
995
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:05,840
anyway, but she deals with like
this Uber rich and like a call
996
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:09,760
in was I brought my Pomeranian.
It needs a Butler.
997
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:13,800
Yeah.
I'm like, dude, you have not
998
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:15,320
faced any challenge in your
life.
999
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:18,840
I'm thinking a small challenge
might make you more interesting,
1000
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:21,160
which I know is a big judgement,
but it's true.
1001
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:24,600
I think I've been through some
crazy things and quake.
1002
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:29,360
So like, yeah, it's crazy.
So you know who shows up for you
1003
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:32,360
and you know who won't?
And then like, I like nice
1004
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:35,000
things.
Like before I hit record, I told
1005
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:36,360
him, like, I grew up on Long
Island.
1006
00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:39,360
And my big joke is I don't
identify as a New Yorker because
1007
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:45,040
New York's not my spot.
But like, all the stuff, it
1008
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,200
just, it just, it can't make you
happy.
1009
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:51,320
It can't.
It just, it doesn't work.
1010
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:54,520
Just doesn't work.
That's and that's it would seem
1011
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:55,200
that way.
Right.
1012
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:57,520
Like like it sucks when you lose
it.
1013
00:53:57,520 --> 00:53:59,640
Oh my joke about.
Long Island is I still like like
1014
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:01,200
mascara and a good leather
jacket.
1015
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:05,560
Like I just can't like those are
kind of ingrained.
1016
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:09,120
I I do, I do love a good, well,
good news is it doesn't cost an
1017
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:11,000
arm and a leg.
For mascara and a good other
1018
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:12,680
jacket.
Exactly.
1019
00:54:12,720 --> 00:54:14,200
You know, I mean that that stuff
is.
1020
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:18,240
Not even about.
Like, listen, if you love
1021
00:54:18,240 --> 00:54:21,760
driving nice cars because it
feels so good, like, OK, fine.
1022
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:23,640
Like, you know, I mean, it's
your money, do whatever.
1023
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:26,920
But what the sad thing is, is a
lot of those times, it's not
1024
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:30,000
even because they love those
things that they're not really
1025
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:32,960
into the mechanics of a watch.
They just want a fancy watch
1026
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,560
because they want to project
something about themselves.
1027
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:38,040
It's just peacocking.
And So what do you want to
1028
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:39,400
project?
What do you want people to see
1029
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:40,160
when they watch?
You.
1030
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,840
I just hope they like my music.
It's like the shy side of you is
1031
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:47,800
fascinating.
OK, we want they'll like your
1032
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:49,640
music obvious.
I mean, that's it.
1033
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:51,720
There's nothing else I have to
offer the world.
1034
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:57,080
I mean it's that's it.
Like does does your other?
1035
00:54:57,600 --> 00:54:59,360
I don't know, everyone says
partner nowadays.
1036
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:01,440
Is your other half, are they
into music too?
1037
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:04,400
Are they not into music?
Do you guys have a line between
1038
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:07,000
that not?
I mean, yeah, she's into music.
1039
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:11,280
Not to the extent that I am, but
to the like.
1040
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,520
Yeah.
And a healthy relationship with
1041
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:15,760
music and the arts.
Is she bound?
1042
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:17,800
Like, did you play like, Oh my
God, I love this and.
1043
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:23,000
She's like yeah or or because I
don't always share what I'm.
1044
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:25,120
Rating with my family.
Because like they're the
1045
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:27,520
harshest girl.
I'm like, oh, she's too sweet.
1046
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:29,520
Because I do show her like the
in.
1047
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:33,880
The in the early, early demo
stages, like ideas and it's
1048
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:36,760
always positive what you need to
believe.
1049
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:40,920
She's a liar.
But but maybe I could gauge it
1050
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:44,360
on like the level of positivity
if she's like, oh, fuck yeah.
1051
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:46,120
Or if she's like, oh, this is
really good.
1052
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:49,160
Like maybe 1 means what it sucks
and the other means is actually
1053
00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:52,680
good.
But but she's she's very, very
1054
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:56,520
sweet, very supportive.
And she comes from like
1055
00:55:56,520 --> 00:56:00,920
contemporary modern dance.
So she can appreciate just being
1056
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,560
obsessed with an art and diving
into it, you know?
1057
00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:06,080
So she gets that.
Yeah.
1058
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:07,440
Yeah.
So music lives in her too,
1059
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:07,960
right?
Yeah.
1060
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:09,840
She just.
Expresses it differently.
1061
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,760
Yeah, good.
Yeah, good way of putting.
1062
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:14,760
That I like that.
That's true, right?
1063
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:16,640
It's just it moves, yeah, it
moves through OK.
1064
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:18,280
So you guys all move.
That's good.
1065
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,800
I was like, oh, my ADH, like I'm
picking up on you.
1066
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,320
You're like my body is like
buzzing, like the nicotine is
1067
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:28,880
kicked in.
Like has my nicotine traveled
1068
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:30,200
through this microphone into
your?
1069
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:33,160
Headphones, that's the whole
thing about like, being
1070
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:34,240
empathic.
Clairvoyant.
1071
00:56:34,240 --> 00:56:36,080
Like you just feel so much.
It's like wow, wow.
1072
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:39,120
You're like you're nervous, like
you're sound like how I feel
1073
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:41,200
like looking at you.
If you want to hear, it's like
1074
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:43,200
from here.
It's not even my elbow, but it's
1075
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:45,440
like from here down is like
jittery now.
1076
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,640
Wow, interesting.
I know.
1077
00:56:48,920 --> 00:56:50,320
I think a good song will come
out of it.
1078
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:52,960
I mean, like you said,
frequencies have a.
1079
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:57,000
Physiological effect.
So maybe certain, maybe it's
1080
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:58,360
certain frequencies in my.
I don't know.
1081
00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:01,360
All right, so I'm gonna like
we're.
1082
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:03,280
We're ending.
We're coming to the end of our
1083
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:07,360
time here.
So I, I want to give your very
1084
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:11,800
loyal friends a chance.
So I, I'm gonna, I'm if you're
1085
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,800
actually down for the T-shirt
thing, I think, I think we
1086
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:17,840
should see the T-shirts.
Like we need pizza T-shirts.
1087
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:19,800
Oh yeah.
You know I don't have APO box
1088
00:57:19,800 --> 00:57:22,080
set up.
And I'm not about to give out my
1089
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:23,000
home address, no.
No.
1090
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:24,240
Don't give out your home
address.
1091
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:25,360
We'll cut all that out.
I was just like.
1092
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:27,640
If you do like I'm like, oh, and
whatever you don't want, we can
1093
00:57:27,640 --> 00:57:29,200
like donate somewhere.
I don't know.
1094
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:30,960
Would you be down for something
like that?
1095
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,000
Wait, people, I'm not going to.
Donate it.
1096
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,600
I'm keeping all of them.
Whatever comes my wait, you want
1097
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:38,520
me to give some away?
I don't want to do that.
1098
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:42,960
OK, no, no giving, it was.
Just seeing if you are.
1099
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,800
Generous, but obviously.
No way.
1100
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:48,800
All right, you.
You let me know if you're.
1101
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,480
Down and I can always add but I
think that would be OK.
1102
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:54,200
How about this if anyone out
there has a pizza?
1103
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,760
T-shirt.
DM me and I will send you my
1104
00:57:57,760 --> 00:57:59,440
home address because that's how
much I want.
1105
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:02,720
They have to leave a comment
here.
1106
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:05,640
We love them here.
Yes, yes, yes.
1107
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:09,120
Leave a comment here.
What do I point anywhere?
1108
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:12,200
OK, just leave a comment.
And what you're Will.
1109
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:13,720
I'm gonna figure out a way I
can.
1110
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:15,080
I can make something happen.
OK?
1111
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:16,320
I'm just gonna leave it in your
hands.
1112
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:19,640
I love.
That I love like.
1113
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:23,160
The challenge of it, can you see
my eyes lighting up?
1114
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:25,120
I just got energized.
I'm like, oh, an impossible
1115
00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:27,280
task.
Yes, I'm going to make this
1116
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:28,960
happen.
I'm going to benefit from this.
1117
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:30,400
So I'm just going to let you.
I'm not.
1118
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:32,160
A stalker and you don't have to
give me your home, we can
1119
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:34,640
figure.
Out someplace, it's a pizza
1120
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:35,680
place.
Nearby to.
1121
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:39,480
Like drop them, give like your
best friends.
1122
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:43,160
All right, so I end every
interview with the same
1123
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:47,440
question, which is if you came
with a warning label, what would
1124
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:51,760
it be?
This product contains nicotine.
1125
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:54,800
Nicotine is an addictive
chemical.
1126
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:58,360
Sorry, I'm literally reading it
from my I think that's epic.
1127
00:58:58,360 --> 00:59:06,080
No, this product contains high
sugar, may give you diabetes.
1128
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:08,400
Did I tell you what my mine is?
So what is yours?
1129
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:09,800
You don't have to be.
Mine is.
1130
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,840
We'll talk about chorea.
Huh?
1131
00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:14,680
My warning label is.
We'll talk.
1132
00:59:15,800 --> 00:59:17,800
And that's.
I could probably learn about
1133
00:59:17,800 --> 00:59:19,600
something a thing for.
Two from you.
1134
00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:21,440
I don't.
I don't know about that.
1135
00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:23,320
My husband doesn't.
Understand the obsession.
1136
00:59:23,320 --> 00:59:25,200
I was like, it's a completely
different culture.
1137
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:26,240
It's everything.
I don't know.
1138
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:28,240
The food is good.
And now I I learned to cook a
1139
00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:30,120
bunch of it and he's like, Oh my
God.
1140
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:33,360
So you've been yeah, twice.
OK, so next time we go.
1141
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:35,520
Next time you go, we're going.
We're going.
1142
00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:36,920
We're just going to go together,
OK?
1143
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:40,320
Because I'm long overdue for a
visit.
1144
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:43,360
So we'll just go over there have
you like I'm guessing you go off
1145
00:59:43,360 --> 00:59:46,240
and you have family.
It's been like a very long time.
1146
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:48,520
I've been like 3.
Times in my life and I don't
1147
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:51,560
know any of my family that's can
you still speak?
1148
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:53,280
Could you?
Can you speak Korean, Hung?
1149
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:55,600
People say I sound like a baby.
Well, that's.
1150
00:59:56,080 --> 00:59:58,560
Like Aggie Aggie.
They say it's cute but I just
1151
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:01,760
think I sound dumb.
I I speak like a 2 year old.
1152
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:04,280
I only know.
I keep trying to learn I have a
1153
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:05,960
very.
I can't keep it.
1154
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:08,600
It just doesn't stick.
It doesn't stick.
1155
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:11,560
I don't know why I can't get any
better, but I'm good enough to
1156
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:14,480
be polite and be treated very
kindly when I'm there.
1157
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:17,600
And yeah, good energy.
So I'm sure you don't need to
1158
01:00:17,600 --> 01:00:19,200
know Korean.
Or English, I like to tell
1159
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:21,440
everyone I'm ajama close so they
have to be nice.
1160
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:26,840
Nice, that's true.
Well, thank you so much so.
1161
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:29,400
Everyone has to find and follow
you.
1162
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,360
Where do you want them?
I know you're trying to get them
1163
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:34,280
over onto your Instagram right
now, but where Instagram,
1164
01:00:34,360 --> 01:00:36,520
TikTok, just search Francis.
Doom.
1165
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:40,880
There's a couple of fake
accounts of people pretending to
1166
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:44,640
be me, but just, you know, do
follow the one with the most
1167
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:47,840
followers.
Yeah, and Spotify and Spotify.
1168
01:00:48,320 --> 01:00:50,040
And don't forget, I mean, yeah.
Spotify.
1169
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:53,600
Apple Music, Amazon, all the
music platforms, that's actually
1170
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:55,840
good call.
That's actually where I want
1171
01:00:55,840 --> 01:00:57,320
them.
I'm like taking them to the
1172
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,680
commercial, to the product.
Just go to the product.
1173
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,560
Yeah, I got you, I got you.
We're good now.
1174
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:05,440
I found the rhythm.
I found the rhythm okay.
1175
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:08,760
And everyone leave a comment and
we are.
1176
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:13,840
And if you want to donate a
pizza T-shirt, say I will donate
1177
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:16,200
a pizza T-shirt, and we'll get
in touch with you to clarify,
1178
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:18,520
she said.
A pizza T-shirt, not a piece.
1179
01:01:18,520 --> 01:01:21,680
Of T-shirt, just so I don't get
pieces of T-shirt.
1180
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:24,320
That would be interesting.
We can make one whole.
1181
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:26,120
Pizza T-shirt and make sense.
OK, anyway.
1182
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:28,640
Sorry.
Anyway, so we want a pizza
1183
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:32,080
parlor.
A pizza joint T-shirt?
1184
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:34,000
I don't know.
I know now I got the Italian
1185
01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:37,680
hand going.
Let's, let's give Francis more
1186
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:41,640
than three shirts.
So thank you for listening to
1187
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:45,120
the Holly Hughes podcast and
we'll see you real soon.
1188
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:45,840
Bye.